What is The Self-Mastery Protocol?

You've done the work.

Therapy. Journals. Breathwork. The "healing" playlists, the morning affirmations, the podcasts that tell you it's okay to not be okay.

And yet.

You feel better—but not whole. You've patched the leaks, but you're still living in the same house, with the same foundation, wondering why it still doesn't feel like home.

The Protocol is not about feeling better. It is about becoming stronger.

What The Protocol Is

A series of classes designed to do one thing: fulfill your esteem needs by targeting the sources of low self-worth—not just the symptoms.

Each session focuses on one specific wound. Not all of them at once. One at a time. You learn how it formed, how it's been running your life, and—most importantly—how to master it so it no longer runs you.

This series of classes culminates into self-mastery:

• How to finally listen to yourself

• How to integrate the parts of you that shame kept hidden (shadow work)

• How to use everything you've learned to build a life tailored to your actual core self—not the version of you that was taught to be small

Why Your Brain Couldn't Do This Before

Neuroscience tells us something important:

When your brain is in survival mode—when you feel unsafe, unseen, or not enough—your amygdala takes over. It's fast. It's loud. And it's designed to keep you physically alive.

But here's what happens: your prefrontal cortex shuts down.

That's the part of your brain responsible for higher thinking. Strategy. Purpose. Abundance.

You cannot focus on your higher needs when your basic ones aren't met. This is not a mindset problem. It's biology.

The Protocol first ensures your foundation is stable. Then it teaches you to build upward.

This Is Not For Everyone

It is for you if:

• You're unsatisfied with therapy that helps you cope but never helps you change

• You're tired of "feeling better" only to return to the same life, the same job, the same relationship that made you unhappy in the first place

• You’re constantly wondering why you attract the same choices with different disguises despite conscious effort to avoid them

• You've tried the hacks, the apps, the 10-minute meditations—and you're ready for something that actually rewires how you see yourself

It is not for you if:

• You're in acute crisis and need immediate support

• You're looking for a quick fix or passive content

• You believe your worth is something you have to earn

Your worth was never the problem.

The problem was that no one taught you how to protect it.

The Protocol teaches you to build the life your healing was always meant to lead to.

How The Protocol Was Born

Not from theory. From terrain.

I was once exactly where you might be now.

Depressed. Anxious. Angry at the world and, more quietly, at myself.
Emotionally dysregulated—which is a clinical way of saying I couldn't trust my own reactions.
Validation-seeking. People-pleasing. Saying yes when I meant no. Lying—small lies, mostly to cover the gap between who I was presenting and who I was afraid I really was.

I cycled through few therapists. Some were kind. Some were competent. Most were somewhat helpful.

And yet, underneath it all, I remained hollow.

Not broken. Not beyond repair. Just… empty. Lost. A house with furniture but no foundation.

That was 13 years ago.

Thirteen years of trial, error, reading, sitting in silence, raging, weeping, and refusing to give up.
I didn’t have a map. No one had written the book I needed. No coach or mentor appeared to say: “Here is the pattern. Here is what applies to you. Here is what you can safely ignore.”

I didn’t know if I was getting better.
I didn’t know if the tools I was trying were meant for me—or if I was forcing round pegs into square holes.
Some questions took years to answer. Not because the answers were hidden, but because no one had shown me where to look.

The Protocol is that map.

It is not a replacement for therapy. It is not a collection of affirmations or a 30-day happiness challenge.

It is a shortcut—earned through a decade of detours.

I am not here to tell you what worked for me and hope it works for you.
I am here to show you:

• Which therapeutic modalities actually target which wounds

• How to identify the core belief beneath the symptom

• How to care for that wound so it stops reopening

• And how to build, from the ground up, a life that reflects who you actually are

This is what I wished existed 13 years ago.
It would have saved me years of wandering.
It would have saved me from therapies that were good, but not right for me.
It would have saved me from the exhaustion of trying to heal without a framework.

“What applies to you might not apply to me.”

Yes. That is true.
You are not me. Your history is your own. Your chemistry, your context, your constellations of wounding—they are unique to you.

And yet.

I am not an anomaly.
The architecture of low self-worth is more consistent than we are taught to believe. The coping mechanisms differ; the sources repeat.
We are built more similarly than we are different.

The Protocol will not apply to everyone.
But it will apply to enough.
And I trust—deeply—that it will find its way to those it was meant for.

This is not my story.
It is a system built from my story.
There is a difference.

I am no longer the person I was.
But I remember her.
I remember how much time she lost.
And I built this so you might lose less.

Questions? Send me an email.